Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.
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Your colleague just dumps yet another task on you and you are already buried up to your neck with your current workload. What can you do? Check out these tips to help you deal with the office bully.
Number 1: Learn to Say No
Reject requests if you know that you have too much on your plate.
Learning to say "no" is a form of strength in itself. More often than not, many of us find ourselves agreeing to too many requests and taking on too many responsibilities. One person can only handle that much.
Most office bullies target those who could not bring themselves to say "no" to them. Muster your courage to say "no" when the "bully" dumps his/her work on your table. Be polite but firm, saying that you regret you are not able to help him/her out as you have your own deadlines to meet.
Number 2: Be Firm
Remain firm on your decision and do not waver in your decision to reject his/her request no matter what he/she might say to persuade you to "help out". If the situation turns ugly and the bully starts hurling verbal abuses at you, keep calm and politely tell him/her that you have to answer to your own superior and the tasks assigned to you are more urgent than the "favours" he/she is asking from you.
By keeping your cool, it will be very obvious to the onlookers in the office that you are being more professional than the bully who might already be blowing his/her top and raising his/her voice at you. Do not feel intimidated or ashamed at this point, as that is exactly what the bully intended you to feel. Show that you are not affected by him/her and you will emerge the "winner" in your "negotiation" in saying "no" to the bully.
Number 3: Know Your Rights
When you signed the letter of appointment, you should be clear of whom you are reporting to at work and it should stay that way unless your employment contract is changed.
You have a right to reject the requests from other people except for your superior as it would be wrong for you to "work" for someone other than the superiors you are answerable to. By acknowledging this fact, you can be more self-assured and firm when dealing with the bully.
Number 4: Be Aware of the Boundary
There is a thin line between what is right or wrong and what is acceptable or unacceptable at the workplace, especially in terms of interpersonal interaction. Be aware of the boundaries of what is acceptable or otherwise when dealing with the bully.
If you feel that your "personal space" is intruded by the bully, know that it is wrong and do something about it. A personal space is the distance between yourself and another person, when that space (your territory) is intruded, with the other person stepping into it, you may feel uncomfortable or nervous. Try to take a step back to maintain your personal space.
Know that it is very normal to feel intimidated and uncomfortable when your personal space is encroached so you have a right to demand that the other person respects your personal space.
If the bully is persistent in getting too close for your comfort, it might be considered a form of sexual harassment, even without the physical contact or verbal harassment. Get help and ask for advice from someone trustworthy and reliable.
Do not dismiss your discomfort as being overly sensitive because sexual harassment at the workplace is a problem of social interpersonal-relationships partly caused by insensitivity.
Number 5: Protect Yourself
By applying Tip 3: Know Your Rights and Tip 4: Be Aware of the Boundary, you should be able to protect yourself from the office bully.
However, in certain extreme cases when the situation gets out of control, such as when the office bully has gone to the extent of extorting money from you or threatening to harm you, get help. Learn some self-defense moves to ward off possible attacks when you are alone and might be "stalked" by the bully.
If the situation turns from harmless to dangerous, talk to your superior or a trusted friend who could offer their opinion on how best to tackle the situation. In the worst case scenario, lodge a police report against the bully if the situation gets out of hand and the bullying case has turned into a criminal case, with your well-being at stake.
Number 6: Avoid the Guilt Trip
A bully does what he/she does best - to make you feel bad. Do not fall into the trap by taking the guilt trip. You do not owe anything to the bully although he/she very much likes you to think that way. You do not have to feel guilty for not following what he/she says. You are not obliged to please him/her. And no matter what he/she says about you, you are not worthless or useless or the incapable worker that he/she wants to make you believe.
Do not succumb to the age-old trick of bullies - to make you actually feel "grateful" that he/she is actually helping you out by asking you do certain things to improve yourself. Build up your feeling of self-confidence and develop a sense of self-worth as well as assuring yourself that you are a valuable asset to the company. Never let the bully tell you or make you feel otherwise.
Having a web is a good start for whoever want to make a decent income from internet. However one common problem that every webmasters is facing, is how to drive traffic to their website. Why traffic is so important? The logic is very simple. Traffic means visitors. Visitors means potential customers.
There are various type of technique to drive traffic to your web. Of course getting your web register to any giant search engine such as Google, Yahoo! and MSN is a must. Another good way to drive traffic is using Buzzfuse.
Buzzfuse allow you to publish your web on their website and of course also driving countless traffic to your web. All you need to do is register and upload your blog from there. It's simple and all can be done in less than 10 minutes. Most importantly they don't charge a single cent at all. I have been using it for a past few days and I began to see some positive results.
We secretly admire the doctor who treats us for our many illnesses. He seems so sure of himself and is such a miracle because he can cure us of our tummy aches, influenzas and the occasional runny nose. There is a reason why we are so drawn to him and are able to connect with him. He has what we call "self confidence".
Confidence is a vital aspect of our day-to-day lives and is especially important in the workplace. After all, you would not be appreciative of a colleague who fumbles and trips over his words while doing a presentation. Unfortunately, not everyone was born with "built-in" self confidence. In fact, many of us had to work hard to achieve some semblance of confidence. People with low confidence and self-esteem often feel unappreciated and find it hard to succeed. The good thing is that it can be achieved with time and effort. Rome was not built in a day, so don't expect the same for yourself and do not push yourself to the limit.
You can easily distinguish a self-confident person from others. They stand tall and proud with their head held high and answer questions clearly but calmly. You will feel instinctively drawn to them because they inspire others around them. This automatically concludes that a self-confident person is often more successful than those who are not.
How confident are you to your colleagues? Take a breather and answer some of these questions to see if you need a crash course in building your confidence.
1. Do you always behave like how others expect you to?
2. Do you manage your behaviour based on what other people think?
3. Do you prefer to stay in your comfort zone and avoid taking up risks and challenging tasks?
4. Do you often find yourself scrambling to fix mistakes so that other people won't notice?
5. Do you feel yourself blushing in shame every time someone points out your mistakes?
If you answered "yes" to two or more of the above questions, then it's time you fix this. A person with low self-confidence is often self-destructive. Confidence is a mixture of courage, strength and the ability to pick yourself up when something fails.
Take pride in what you have achieved
Keep a log book or a diary and jot down all the achievements you have made. Perhaps you have closed a successful sales deal or have been recently promoted. Take note of praises and words of encouragement from your superior. For days when you feel down and demoted, flip through the pages and re-read some of your successes. They are a constant reminder that you can do it and are able to achieve more if you set your heart to it.
Be a go-getter
Set realistic goals for yourself and stick to it. Say "I will complete this project in a fortnight" and not "I think I can complete it in a fortnight". If you make a strong reinforcement to the statement, chances are your brain will register and you will be able to meet the deadline. Also, try to set goals that will highlight your strengths and minimize your weaknesses.
Receive a compliment graciously
It is a natural instinct for Asians to be overly humble when someone compliments them. Don't be. Acknowledge that you deserve the compliment because you have worked hard for it. Smile and say "Thank you. It was really nice of you to notice my work. I'm very proud of it as well" and not "Oh, it was nothing. Anyone could have done it." The former shows that you are capable of handling tough projects while the latter says that you are a pessimist, plus it also gives the impression that your job is an easy-peasy one!
Positive self-talk
At this point, you have to start managing what goes in and out of your brain. Yes, you might have had a terrible experience at your last job and it has sucked out all of your self esteem and confidence. It is now time to let go and move on. Eliminate all negative self-talk and replace them with positive ones. One good tip that I've learnt is to stick colourful pictures on your wall, in your car, or any other places that are convenient to you. Stick a smiley face to remind you to smile. Put phrases of encouragement and frame them up.
Celebrate
Last but not least, celebrate to rejoice in the fact you have worked diligently to bring your self- confidence to another level. Allow yourself some fun. After this, stretch yourself a little bit more. Make your goals bigger and challenge yourself more. Take it one step at a time at a pace that's comfortable to you. Some people take three months; others may take up to six months or more. You will slowly notice a difference in yourself.
For the past few years I have been reading a lot of articles about making a residual incomes. One of the most common and popular way is making money on internet. Making money using internet is no longer a wishing thinking anymore. In fact, internet users are growing like nobody business. Therefore I'm not surprise at all that webmasters can really make a decent income from their website.
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Whether you have the winter blues, you're suffering from a disappointment, or you're just feeling a little down, we all have times when we could use a little lift. Here are 10 ideas to get you back on the upswing.
1. Plan Some Fun. Get out your calendar. Next do a search for things to do in your area. Local newspapers usually have a "What's Going On" section. Pick out your favorite 5 or 10 things. And remember the things you choose don't have to be big events. It can be as simple as taking a long drive in the country or going for a walk on the beach. Write them into your calendar. Invite someone to join you on some. For others go and meet some new people.
2. Express Your Creativity. Do some painting. Decorate your house with flowers. Do a paper mache project. Pick up that guitar, practice and write a song. Practice juggling. Make a funny photo album with all those old photos you've got in boxes by adding quirky caption above each picture. Learn how to play the harmonica. Write and illustrate a mini book or comic book. Maybe pick your favorite movie get a friend to act out one of the scenes with you while you videotape it. It doesn't have to be good. Just doing these things will make you feel good. And if you keep doing them you'll naturally get better.
3. Get Outside. Fresh air does wonders for your body and spirit. If you can go to a park or a place in nature, even better. Here are some things you could do: go for a walk, fly a kite, plant some vegetables or flowers, roller skate, ride a bike, or go on a 'treasure hunt" to find things for an art project.
4. Let Music Take You Higher. Turn on your favorite music and sing! Pull down the shades and dance. Rent a video on belly dancing. If you're in your car, you can still move a little to the music. Go for it! What do you care what other people think? Have fun with it! Sing, dance, play an instrument. Practice your favorite song and then go to karaoke and let the world hear your talent!
5. Walk a Dog. If you don't have your own dog, offer to walk a neighbor's dog. Or even better yet, sign up at the local MSPCA to walk the pooches who have no one to love them. What a nice way to make a difference!
6. Volunteer. There are so many ways to help others. Here are a few ideas.
- Feed people. Volunteer at a food kitchen or make your own homemade batch of food and share it with people who could use it: shut-ins, elderly, new mothers, someone who is works too much, etc.
- Help People: volunteer with the Salvation Army, the Red Cross, or Meels on Wheels.
- Mentor. Check out Big Brother/Big Sister, Mentoring.org, or SCORE(mentoring small business start-ups).
7. A Change Will Do You Good. Get some order in your house. Change your furniture around. Change your decorations, or maybe go minimalist for a change. Clear out the clutter. It doesn't matter where you start. Just pick a place in your home that's been bugging you and attack it! Then sell, throw, or give away stuff you don't need. You'll feel great afterward and you'll have made a dent in making your living space more peaceful. And maybe it will give you inspiration to tackle another area tomorrow.
8. Plan a Party. There doesn't need to be a good reason other than it's time for some fun. Start with a small idea and build around it. Maybe you can get inspired by a theme, certain foods, or your favorite music to get the ball rolling. Then think about who you would like to invite. When and where will you have it? Will you cook, hire caterers, or make it pot luck? A meal or finger foods? Will there be dancing, contests, games, or other fun stuff like costumes? Maybe it will be low key with some jazz music, wine and cheese. Or maybe it will be a Hawaiian luau. Or maybe if you have a lot of singe friends you can have a white elephant party. Call a friend for help with the logistics.
9. Personal Spa and Relaxation Day. Include as many of these ideas as you like or have time for. Get a massage, pedicure, and haircut. Take a bubble bath with candles, music and champagne. Give yourself an egg-white or mud mask facial. Line up 2-3 movies to watch in bed while eating your favorite delights: ice cream, chocolate, whip cream, jello, popcorn, finger food hors d'oeuvre, and more. What else would you include to pamper yourself?
10. Reach Out. Connect with friends and family. When was the last time you wrote and mailed an actual letter? Why not do it today? Or how about making some home made post cards with materials you have lying around the house. Cutout some pictures from magazines or from your photo collection and make a mini collage. Maybe just call one old friend from college or high school that you haven't talked to in forever. Or maybe you could visit a neighbor who might need some cheering up too! Bring some cookies!
My vision is getting from bad to worst. A few years ago, I can easily see an moving object which is just less than 100 meters away. But now, it took me a couple of minutes to focus on it. Finally I have to give in to my poor vision thanks to my job where require me to spend at least 6 hours in front of personal computer. Then I accidentally saw a headline titled "Zenni Optical: Sell Rx Glasses $8 with case!"... It caught my attention. It's time to get myself a new pair spectacles. Zenni Optical's design is something that I'm looking for. Their design are trendy and definitely going to looks good on me. I simply love it!
We all know what caffeine can do for our moods in the morning, but caffeine is also increasingly celebrated in the dermatological community for its impact on the skin. For years, caffeine's ability to quickly and effectively constrict blood vessels has made it a valued topical ingredient, particularly in products designed to minimize facial flushing. For that reason, caffeine can be a tremendous boon to those who suffer from rosacea, which is essentially caused by frequently dilated blood vessels that lose their ability to contract.
La Roche Posay Rosaliac products, for example, are a great anti-inflammatory option for anyone who suffers from rosacea or facial redness. Topix Replenix CF Anti-Photoaging Complex SPF 45 is another excellent, well-rounded product that offers a blend of powerful antioxidants, caffeine, and sunscreen.
Caffeine's blood vessel-constricting benefits also make it a go-to ingredient in many eye creams (like MD Formulations Moisture Defense Antioxidant Eye Crème, for example), as it can quickly minimize redness and puffiness.
In addition to its anti-inflammatory benefits, though, caffeine is starting to get lots of attention for its antioxidant properties when used both topically and orally. (That morning cup o' joe might not be so bad after all!)
In fact, research suggests that both oral and topical caffeine may offer powerful anticarcinogenic benefits. A series of studies performed on mice found that caffeinated green and black teas prevented sun damage and even repaired damage once it occurred, whereas decaffeinated teas did not.
One particularly promising study suggested that topical caffeine may also repair UV damage - and that it may prove to be a stronger antioxidant than certain green tea polyphenols, currently among the strongest and best-researched antioxidants around. (On a related note, coffeeberry, which comes from the fruit of the coffee plant, is also getting a lot of attention lately as the next big antioxidant.)
Just a couple words of caution, though: Caffeine is dehydrating, so be sure to follow your coffee or tea with plenty of water. And if you're prone to facial flushing, hot beverages can cause redness; consider enjoying your caffeinated beverages over ice.
Indonesia's former president Suharto, who ruled with an iron fist for 32 years, has died at the age of 86. His rule was marked by rapid economic growth and political stability, but marred by massacres, human rights abuses and corruption.
The former general came to power after an abortive coup in 1965 that was officially blamed on the communist party. In the months that followed, hundreds of thousands of communist supporters were killed.
During the next three decades, Suharto built a strong central government under his New Order regime and introduced modernisation programmes which helped pull his country out of poverty and into relative prosperity.
But allegations of corruption, the Asian economic crisis and a fall in living standards sparked discontent and mass demonstrations which led to his downfall in 1998. In the years that followed attempts were made to try Suharto on charges of genocide and embezzling hundreds of millions of dollars of state funds. But in 2000, judges ruled he was unfit to stand trial.
Suharto and his family always denied the allegations but they remained a humiliation for him in his later years. Suharto was admitted to hospital with failing kidneys, heart and lungs earlier this month.
He died after slipping into a coma while in a hospital in Jakarta.
One of the factors that define adulthood for many is the ability to look at situations and take action based on the facts. Children tend to see a situation and base their choices not on facts, but on how they feel about it. It is often said that many people may have a chronological age that is defined by their birth date, but their emotional maturity does not match their age.
Emotional maturity is not something that is automatically given to someone when they turn 18. Emotional maturity is something that we must develop in our lives by knowing how to respond to situations in a mature and responsible manner.
Three factors that define emotional maturity are:
Ability to Face Reality -- Acceptance
We know that we need to stop smoking because it is not good for our health, but we don’t do it because we want to avoid having to face a difficult challenge in our lives. Many of us like to avoid difficulties and pretend that they don’t exist. It isn’t until we can face reality and accept the situation that is before us then we can mature. We have to stop denying that situations exist and instead move towards assessing the risks of situations and taking actions based on those risks.
Ability to Relate Well With Others
This is a big world, and we need to get along with others – even those that are different from us or have beliefs that differ from ours. All too often we look at others with a critical eye or let anger and frustrations interfere with our perceptions of others. We must learn to forgive others (and ourselves) and start making amends with people for what we have done wrong in the past. Instead of looking at people with a critical eye, look for the good inside them. Be compassionate, not critical.
Willingness to be Honest with Ourselves
We must be willing to do a self-appraisal of who we are and what we want our of life. Chances are that there are areas in your life that could use improvement. None of us is perfect. Sometimes change starts from within – and when you change, the world around you starts to change with you. We don’t have to be in control of everything in our life – sometimes we have to put our faith in a belief that things are going to work out. Being honest with ourselves can lead us to understand that some things in our life just aren’t worth worrying about.
So now it is your turn. What is your emotional maturity? Can you see yourself in the above statements or are there areas you want to improve upon? It’s never too late – whether you are 18 or 81 there are chances for you to increase your emotional maturity age.
How many of us think, "I want more" or "I want a better life." Most likely, that thought has occurred to nearly everyone at some point. However, how many of us then take planned action to really make it happen? Unfortunately, not many.
No matter how lofty your goals are or how impossible they seem to others, planning is the only way to prepare and succeed. If you want to be one of those people that get what they want out of life, here are some guidelines you better be prepared to follow!
1. Decide What You Want. Some people get down thinking "I never get what I want," but if you ask them what they want they can't really articulate it. That's usually because they haven't put a lot of thought into it. Don't worry, it happens to a lot of us. We're just busy living life: going to work, going to school, buying the groceries, paying the bills, taking the dog to the vet, blah, blah, blah.
Get off that treadmill for one afternoon. Set aside 1-2 hours just for you! During that time, think about what you really want. Write down everything and then boil it down to your top 10, top 5, top 3, and number one thing that you want.
2. Reality Check. Goals should be realistic, but they need not be easy. So a goal to date Heidi Klum might not be realistic, but a goal to date a woman who has all the attributes and values you like would be more attainable. Maybe you long to go back in time or bring back a loved one who you've lost. That's not realistic, but instead you could set upon a goal to live a life or find a person who embodies similar elements to what you had before. If your goal is to make $1 million dollars, break it down into shorter term goals that are doable. When you hit those short term milestones it will give you encouragement to continue on your journey. Lastly, remember that goals don't have to be about getting things or people, they can also be about how you want to live your life on a daily basis.
3. Focus. Work on only your top 1-3 goals at any given time. When those are completed, move onto the next goals on your list. If you try to bite off more than you can chew, you won't reach any of your goals. Go slow to go fast.
4. Write It Down. Each morning, write out the goals that you are working on. This may seem silly after a while, but it takes very little time and it is very powerful. Also, each morning, write out the actions you will take that day toward your goals. It doesn't have to be a lot. A little bit every day will get you there.
5. Big Stuff First. Each day, complete the action steps that bring you closer to your goal before you work on the little mundane things of life. Checking email, laundry, bills, chores, errands, all that stuff will wait until later in the day. If necessary, go to bed an hour earlier and get up an hour earlier to free up some time for working on your goals. Eliminating some, most or all TV watching is an easy way to find more time. Eliminate activities that are not important to make time for what you really want.
6. Aim for Progress not Perfection. Don't wait until you're "good" at playing guitar before you play for people. Playing for people will force you to improve faster than if you just practice in the safety of your bedroom. Don't wait until you have all the money needed before you start taking steps towards starting a business. If you start taking action, when money is needed you'll be more likely to either figure out a way to do it with no or less money or figure out a way to find the money. So just start doing! Planning is good, but action is the only way to make things happen.
7. Learn. Take every opportunity to learn more about what it is you're trying to accomplish. Read, attend classes, and join groups where you can meet others who have done what you want to do. And everything you learn, translate it into concrete things you can DO towards reaching your goal.
8. Take Action Every Day. Every day, no matter how small, do something that brings you closer to reaching your goal.
9. Keep It Simple. It's very easy to get distracted by fancy things thinking they will help us reach our goal. Do you really need a new gadget to track your progress or will simple pen and paper do the trick? Do you need to buy an e-course that teaches you how to workout, or do you just need to get your butt out running each day? Any time you find yourself thinking, "Oh, that could help me reach my goal," ask yourself "Is it really necessary for reaching my goal?" If not, move on. If you're not sure, move on. You can come back to it later.
10. Feed Your Belief. Every day spend some time at the beginning of the day and at the end of the day visualizing yourself living, attaining, and achieving your goals. Close your eyes for 10 minutes or so and run a little mental movie in your head. See the things you want happening right now. Turn up the volume in terms of color, sight, sound, and emotion for more impactful results. This activity will "program" your subconscious to believe. Once your subconscious believes then it starts automatically prompting you to take actions that will help you reach your goal. "Automatic" is good because it lessens the need for will-power.
11.Track Your Progress. In a journal, your calendar, a chart, or a simple notebook keep track of your daily progress. Write down what you did that day along with any milestones reached that day. This will provide motivation to stick with it day in and day out. Fail-proof it by making it something you can't forget or avoid doing.
12. The Power Factor. One of the most powerful things you can do to achieve your goals is to enlist another person's help. So find a mentor, coach, teacher, or simply a goal buddy. Having someone that you "report" to, that supports you, guides you and pushes you will make your success all the more certain.
Wishing you great success in reaching your goals. Remember, if you set your mind to something and take action, You Can Do It!
When we talk about living a complete life, what do we mean? Are we talking about simply achieving goals as a way to show accomplishments? Not exactly – a complete life means that you live a life that is fulfilled and full of happiness.
Goals are an important part of it, but so are personal and professional relations, passions and desires. For almost everyone, living a complete life is an ongoing process – every day we take steps or perform tasks that help us achieve the goals and desires we have set forth in our life.
It’s very easy to live life – to go through the motions – without living fulfilled. Far too many of us are getting up every day and we don’t have a passion or purpose in what we do. We’ve lost track of our life goals and are not sure how to get back on the path towards living a fulfilled life.
So how do we get back on track in our lives? Or if we already are on track, what are some of the tips that can help keep us on track? I’ve compiled a list of 5 areas that you can focus on that can help you achieve living a fulfilled and complete life.
Turn Your Desires and Wants into Goals
We all have desires and wants in our life. For some of us it can be a desire to be able to retire early, for others we may have a want to get the latest BMW. For many people they have a desire to make sure that they leave behind a legacy of doing well in both their personal and professional lives.
In order to achieve your wants and desires, set up goals for yourself. In fact, many people find that by having goals – and milestones to achieving that goal – that they have the motivating power to actually make it happen. Setting up goals gives you the purpose for getting up in the morning and helps fuel the drive to succeed. Make sure your goals are achievable by breaking them down into smaller steps. Then celebrate each time you achieve one of the steps towards the larger goal!
Turn Your Goals into Habits
Now that you have defined your goals, or better yet you have achieved them, don’t step there! Turn those goals into habits. If your goal was to finish your college education then make it a habit – make education a part of your everyday life by always learning and doing. If your goal was to get rid of the clutter in your life then make sure you don’t stop once you have achieved it or else the clutter will find its way back into your life!
Habits help us continually achieve goals and even help take small goals and transform them into larger ones. For instance, if you have achieved your goal of reducing your energy and water usage help others see the benefits of doing so as well – expand your goal by making it your habit! People learn by seeing others do.
Track Your Progress and Celebrate Your Accomplishments
If you remember, I said that in order to make your goals achievable to break them down into smaller steps and celebrate each step as you achieve it. It’s important that we recognize the progress we make in our lives – and that our friends and family make in theirs. It’s positive reinforcement and it is one of the most crucial ingredients in leading a happy, fulfilled life.
Celebrate accomplishments and use the momentum from achieving that milestone as the catalyst to propel you towards the next milestone! You will find that soon you have developed a positive self-feeding cycle in your life and you will be able to achieve anything you put your mind to!
Watch Out For the Negatives
How many of us limit ourselves by listening to old, outdated and just plain wrong advice and conventions? When people tell you that you can’t do something because you haven’t done X or Y first, just smile and tell them “Thanks, but I think I’ll give it a shot!” Never limit yourself or your beliefs.
It seems that in life people are always more apt to listen to those who want to spread the negative emotions and thoughts around than they are those who want to spread around the message of “Yes you can!” Learn how to overcome those who want to be held back by old, outdated beliefs and propel yourself forward knowing that you can do something if you work hard at it.
Bill Gates, the founder of Microsoft, didn’t believe in the old belief at the time that IBM didn’t do business with small companies – and look at where he is now!
Keep Your Mind Open Change
We should always make sure that we have an open mind and learn that change happens and sometimes we need to modify our desires or goals. This doesn’t mean you should give up on something because you think it is too hard to achieve, but rather you should be open for new ways of achieving that goal or modifying the goal to take advantage of advanced in technology, science and the world around us.
Successful people know that change is part of life – and that change does not, as many people believe, happen suddenly but rather is a gradual process that takes place every minute of the day. By being aware of the change that happens around them they can better focus their goals and desires to take advantage of change instead of being surprised by it.
Are you preparing to bring fulfillment to your life? Use this list as guide then watch as change starts to happen around you. People will notice when you change your attitude and outlook, and when they do it is almost viral – they begin to change theirs as well! Before you know it, not only are you living a full, complete life but you also were the catalyst for others to find fulfillment in their lives as well!
Get your toes wet in the world's largest swimming pool in Chile - all eight hectares of it. The San Alfonso Del Mar Resort is lapping up huge crowds as its greatest asset trounces all other record holders in its category.
Just like taking a dip in 6,000 domestic pools, the clear water artificial lagoon is transparent to a depth of 35 metres.
Lifeguards may need to bring the binoculars to scout around its impressive circumference.
Get your morning exercise by doing a few laps - it's only one kilometre long. And if the pool doesn't take your fancy, try the Pacific Ocean for size.
If you get lost in the pool, this central pyramid may come in handy. The entire design is the brainchild of Chilean businessman and biochemist Fernando Fischmann.
VIP guests not wanting to get their feet wet can enjoy the chauffeur service.
Don't forget to ask for the room with the pool-side view.
There's no tight squeeze in this pool. In fact, there's 250,000 cubic metres of water, which is pumped straight from the Pacific Ocean and then filtered and treated for supply to the pool.
You need to constantly ask yourself, does it really worth working nites and days for your job. Of course we work is to sustain our living expenses, but again does it really worth jeopardizing our life? The answer is no and the reason is very simple, because work really can kill you, whereby the on the job stress raises the risk of heart disease by disrupting the body's internal systems.
According to a long-running study involving more than 10,000 British civil servants also suggest stress-induced biological changes may play a more direct role than previously thought.
Heart disease is the world's leading cause of death. It is caused by fatty deposits that harden and block arteries, high blood pressure which damages blood vessels, and other factors.
The researchers measured stress among the civil servants by asking questions about their job demands such as how much control they had at work, how often they took breaks, and how pressed for time they were during the day.
The team conducted seven surveys over a 12-year period and found chronically stressed workers -- people determined to be under severe pressure in the first two of the surveys -- had a 68 percent higher risk of developing heart disease.
The link was strongest among people under 50.
Behavior and biological changes likely explain why stress at work causes heart disease, Chandola said. For one, stressed workers eat unhealthy food, smoke, drink and skip exercise -- all behaviors linked to heart disease.
In the study, stressed workers also had lowered heart rate variability -- a sign of a poorly-functioning weak heart -- and higher-than-normal levels of cortisol, a "stress" hormone that provides a burst of energy for a fight-or-flight response.
Too much cortisol circulating in the blood stream can damage blood vessels and the heart.
The world's hairiest man, Yu Zhenhuan, is looking for love.
A man who was nickname, "Human King Kong" is a 29-year-old, from China, was told by his mum that he would never find a wife.
Despite all the criticism that he receive, he never lose hope. Therefore he has now joined an internet dating agency.
A medical condition means more than 95% of Yu's body is covered in hair, which is too painful too shave off.
He said: "I know I'm ugly but I'm a good person and need love like everyone else.
"I feel like King Kong, ugly outside but with a big heart."
Yu - who uses the name woolboy for his email address - is in the Guinness Book of Records. He has just undergone surgery to remove hair which caused him to lose a third of his hearing.
Hollywood actor Heath Ledger has been found dead in a Manhattan apartment from a possible drugs overdose, according to police. A spokesman said Ledger had an appointment for a massage at the apartment in the trendy SoHo neighbourhood.
The housekeeper went to tell Ledger the masseuse had arrived and found him dead. Police said they did not suspect foul play and added that pills were found near the body. The 28-year-old Australian-born actor received an Oscar nomination for the hit film Brokeback Mountain. Ledger met his partner, actress Michelle Williams, on the set in 2005. They lived in Brooklyn and had a daughter, Matilda, but split up last year.
Ledger most recently appeared in I'm Not There, in which he played one of the many incarnations of Bob Dylan. He played the suicidal son of Billy Bob Thornton in Monster's Ball and had starring roles in A Knight's Tale and The Patriot. He also appear as the Joker this year in the latest Batman movie, The Dark Knight, a sequel to 2005's Batman Begins.
1. The medicinal properties of mud are well documented, so wouldn't we all like to dive in to this slimy bath in Chilca, Peru, for a special treatment?
The mud here is said to cure everything from acne to rheumatism.
2. If you want to get cured by Mother Nature, it's no good pussy-footing around.
Thousands of people go to The Lagoon of Miracles, with its distinct greenish coloured water, every year.
3. And why not relax while the mud works its magic?
The mud bath tradition goes way back in history.
Cleopatra used Dead Sea black mud, and the therapy is used all over the world, wherever hot springs and volcanic ash appear together.
4. Okay, so there's no proof, but we all know that being cocooned in warm, soft mud is thought to de-stress the body.
5. A mud bath is also thought to improve the complexion, relieve joint and muscle pain and remove toxins.
6. And did you know that the temperature makes you perspire, which cleans all that nasty stuff from your pores.
7. Top-to-toe in green slime, this convert to the advantages of mud seems determined not to leave an inch of skin bare.
8. ...And there, let us wallow... in glorious mud!
Of course the only thing to do while the mud is taking effect is to chill out.
David Beckham has appealed for the world not to "turn a blind eye" to the deaths of millions of children in developing nations. The England midfielder was speaking after a visit to Sierra Leone as a Unicef goodwill ambassador.
More than 27% of children in the African nation die before their fifth birthday. "We can't turn a blind eye to the tens of thousands of young children who die every day in the developing world mostly from causes that are preventable," he said.
"In Sierra Leone, one in four children dies before reaching their fifth birthday."It's shocking and tragic, especially when the solutions are simple - things like vaccinations against measles or using a mosquito net to reduce the chance of getting malaria."Saving these children's lives is a top priority for Unicef and as an ambassador I hope I can help to draw attention to this issue across the world."
The star, who is a father of three, spent four days in Sierra Leone during which he visited a health clinic and joined health workers as they travelled to local communities to vaccinate children. At a feeding centre for severely malnourished children he also saw babies who had survived on water because their mothers were undernourished and unable to breastfeed.
Unicef, the UN children's charity, has also published its The State of the World's Children (SOWC) 2008 report. It shows more than 26,000 children under the age of five die every day around the world. Unicef UK executive director David Bull said thanked Beckham for shining the spotlight on the situation in Africa.
He said: "Surely there is no reward more precious than saving the life of a child? Their futures remain in our hands."
Nobody can escape from worrying. This is one of the human nature. Worry likes to stick its nose into every aspect of our lives. No matter how silly or unlikely a scenario may seem, it is very real to you. Many have tried to overcome it completely, and some great masters may have. But for the rest of us, having some simple strategies to lessen or work with our worries can have a positive impact on our lives.
1. Schedule time to worry. Often if your brain knows that you don’t want to worry right now, but you will allow it time to worry later, the worries will go away. Schedule 10 minutes in the morning, and 10 minutes in the evening to just worry. Many times, you won’t find anything to worry about, but it’s a way to get the mind to focus on things on your time-frame.
2. Wipe them away. One trick is to imagine a windshield wiper smearing and wiping away the worry. When the image of the worry comes into your head, picture a wiper swishing back and forth, wiping it away. Usually after a couple of times, it will go away, at least for a short period.
3. Write out a list of worries. Lots of personal development techniques revolve around writing things out. Just the act of putting things down on paper can help lessen anxieties.
4. Do something about it. More often then not, the actual task or situation that we worry about turns out to be much less troubling than we imagined. If you jump in and try to do something about it, even just a small thing, the momentum and act of moving forward will lessen or alleviate the worry.
5. Don’t lie awake. If you find that you tend to worry in the middle of the night, don’t just stay in bed and let the anxiety get the best of you. Get up and do something about it. Use one of the first 4 methods, or your own favorite technique, to get it out of your head. Worries tend to become intensified when we’re tired - and the dark and stillness of a room at night may not help much either. Demons, real and imagined, love that sort of thing.
Your worries are your own, and something you may have to live with, like a really annoying houseguest. Finding ways to deal with them may be your saving grace, because some houseguests can take a hint, while others just don’t know when to leave.
Your family or friends might complaint that you are not matured enough to handle certain problems. By asking yourself, how do you define maturity? Does the older we get the more mature we are? I would say, maturity doesn't measure by age. Maturity is based on the life experience that we have gone through and:
Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction. How often do we let anger and destructive habits taint our responses to a situation? As stressful as any situation may be, we need to learn how to resolve them without turning towards anger and potentially destructive behavior.
Maturity is patience. It is true what they say: the best things in life often take time to come to fruition. We have to be willing to pass up immediate pleasure or rewards and realize that sometimes the best solution to a problem is to go for the resolution that gives us long-term gain. We may not get what we want today, but in the long run we will grow our lives in a multitude of ways.
Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat, without complaint or collapse. Life will present us with any unpleasant situations. Sometimes we will not only face frustration, but also defeat. We must learn that no matter how difficult or unpleasant the situation may be we should face it without complaint or giving up on it altogether. Life is about learning and we can learn a lot from the situations we face that may put us in situations where we would rather not be.
Maturity is humility. The hardest words in the English language to say are “I’m sorry” and “I was wrong”. Yet, these words are growth words – they grow you as a person. There are times when you will be right in life, despite what others have said. Instead of rushing to say “I told you so,” realize that everyone has a different view of reality. You don’t need to gain satisfaction by gloating about an outcome. People will respect you when they see that you are willing to admit your mistakes, and when you are big enough to just let things go.
Maturity is the ability to make a decision and follow through. Doing be a talker, be a doer! So many people have good intentions but they never follow through on them. Don’t spend your entire life thinking of all the ways you can do things and then end up doing nothing.
Maturity means dependability and coming through in a crisis. When you say you are going to do something, do everything in your power to make it happen. If you find out you cannot do something you said you were going to do, be sure to let the other party know why and explain alternative options. Get organized in life so that people learn that they can depend on you and know that when you say you will do something they can guarantee that what you say is golden.
Maturity is the art of living in peace. Know that there are some things in life we simply cannot change and be accepting of that. Also know that there are opportunities to change things in this world. With this knowledge you can have the courage to go forth and help bring about change for the better. Have the wisdom to know when you can make a difference and when you must be accepting of what is presented to you despite how you feel to the contrary.
One of the top British junior tennis player has been sent home in a very disgrace manner from the Australian Open after strings of disciplinary issue. Marcus Willis left his rackets at his hotel, was late for training, missed a bus and disappeared for several hours, dissapointed all his fans back home.
The 17-year-old, consider as one of the bright young star, who was 16th seed in the boys singles, had already been warned about his unprofessional behaviour.
Last year, two juniors were suspended from the Lawn Tennis Assocation after boasting of their drinking exploits on the Bebo website. Roger Draper, chief executive of the LTA, said he was frustrated by the latest breach in discipline. LTA has no choice but to withdrawn Willis participation in Australia Open.
My godness! Take a look at this video clip. I did not know that there's such a big mouth like this before. It really took me by surprise, how does a man can do this. He can even flip his lips over his nose. Even a double cheese burger is not an issue for him to swallow. This man got an alligator mouth!
Health is the driver of technology. Thanks to the latest piece of technology, women could not longer feeling the pain from their bras during exercise. Statistic shows that almost 80% of women are feeling pain and nerve damage by wearing the wrong bra.
However an invention of 'intelligent fabric' with sensors allows designers to create bras which alleviate the pressure. Researchers at the University of Wollongong in Australia gave two women the sensor bras.
The volunteers, one wearing a 36D bra and the other a 38DD, were instructed to walk on a treadmill at 4.3mph and then speed up to a jog of 6.2mph. Using the sensors, the researchers were able to confirm that their bra straps were taking the brunt of the strain.
The scientists believe the findings can be used to design bras that limit excessive breast movement without causing discomfort. They said: "A consequence of current bra design is that the brassiere straps bear much of the load generated by breast momentum during physical activity."
"As breast mass increases, breast bounce momentum also increases, placing large loads on the straps and, in turn, excessive pressure on the wearer's shoulders."
"Apart from strap-related pain, many females, particularly large-breasted women are restricted from participating in physical activity due to exercise-induced breast pain associated with excessive vertical breast displacement."
Recent advances in polymer science have allowed sensors to be built into fabrics to monitor human motion.
Microsoft is developing software which is able to monitor how well people are working and even how they are feeling.
Computers may monitor youIt has filed a patent application for a system which links workers to their computers via wireless sensors which measure their metabolism.
It would allow employees to remotely measure body temperature, heart rate, movement, facial expression and blood pressure.
Monitoring technology has previously been limited to jobs such as pilots, and this is believed to be the first time that such a system has been proposed for mainstream offices.
The patent application says that the system "facilitates managing and optimising user activity automatically to improve overall user productivity and efficiency."
It adds that it includes "an activity management component which can process and evaluate user activity data to assess user performance on their respective activities and the current allocation of system and human resources."
Nevertheless, many people feel that such a system is a basic infringement of people's rights.
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